Tonglen Practice Weekend: Discovering Compassion Within

with Acharya Emily Bower, Kate Raddock, Sarah Kimball

December 7th—December 9th (2018)

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  • $225 Patron
  • $175 Sustaining
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Room: Main Shrine Room

Contemplating with Compassion and Practicing “Sending and Taking” Together

Tonglen, which means 'sending and taking' in Tibetan, is one of the most powerful and intense compassion meditations in the Buddhist tradition. In the words of Pema Chodron "in tonglen practice, instead of running from pain and discomfort, we acknowledge them and own them fully. Instead of dwelling on our own problems, we put ourselves in other people's shoes and appreciate our shared humanity. Then the barriers start to dissolve, our hearts and minds begin to open."

The purpose of these profound practices is to open our hearts to others—including loved ones—and to strengthen our “compassion muscles.” An important, and often overlooked, aspect of rousing compassion, is how we need to drop our own agenda—indeed, any wish to succeed or grow or improve—in order to genuinely see and hear others.

In this intensive weekend, we will begin our exploration of compassion practices with sending kindness and generosity toward ourselves, and being curious about how we respond. We will also contemplate:
- kindness to others
- the interdependence of all beings
- imagining others as happy
- taking away the suffering of others

Friday, December 7th: 7:00 PM - 9:00 PM,
The Friday evening talk is open to all, donations accepted at the door.

Saturday, December 8th: 9:00 AM - 6:00 PM
Sunday December 9th: 9:00 AM - 3:00 PM
To create a safe space for those learning the practice, partial attendance is not an option for the Saturday and Sunday portions.


May all sentient beings enjoy happiness and the root of happiness

May they be free from suffering and the root of suffering

May they not be separated from the great happiness devoid of suffering

May they dwell in the great equanimity free from passion, aggression and prejudice

The Four Immeasurables –Padmasambhava

Acharya Emily Bower started practicing in the Shambhala community in 1987, in Berkeley, CA. She has studied kyudo with Kanjuro Shibata Sensei and is a lifelong member of the Dorje Kasung. In 1991, she joined the staff of Karme Chöling, where she lived for three years, working on publicity and marketing. She has been a professional editor since 1987 and has most recently worked full-time as an acquiring editor for Shambhala Publications in Boston. Now, in addition to traveling and teaching in the Shambhala mandala, she continues to work as a book editor and publishing consultant. She has recently moved to Los Angeles.

Acharya Emily Bower studied intensively with Pema Chodron early in her dharma training, using the traditional lojong teachings of Jamgön Kongtrul as a foundation and framework for tonglen practice.

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